Stop Screaming Seriously... remember it's SSS!

Something I personally have never quite understood is raising your voice at someone unprovoked.
According to the standard and general definition- that I'm aware of- yelling or screaming means that one is expressing an emotion in a verbal way out of an extreme emotion. Usually this is out of fear or rage. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it is usually a direct result of a catalyst.
Yet, when there isn't a catalyst involved- for example an argument- then the raising of one's voice over anothers, or yelling, isn't called for and should never be tolerated.
Especially from a spouse.
There is no excuse for not being able to control oneself in a non-confrontational environment. Be it in person, or over the telephone. There is also no excuse for treating a loved one (spouse or child) in such a manner.
The verbal and emotional battering of spouses is on the rise in this country. It happens in your city or town. It happens to those you work with, to people on your street. Maybe even in your very own home.
Somehow certain individuals find it socially and generally acceptable to not only disrespect but disregard the thoughts, opinions, and emotions of the person they have chosen to spend the rest of their life with.
Makes one wonder if the "gig is up" on courtship.
Just because someone has agreed to be committed to you does not give you the right to assasinate their character. It does not give you the right to call them names, and "put them in their place".

When relationships are in trouble, and the threat of ending the relationship is a bright, flashing red light inches from your face, you have to make a decision.
You have a few options:
1. Change yourself. How you communicate with your spouse. You need to sit back, take some time and maybe even a notebook, and honestly brainstorm the issues you personally have in your relationship.
2. Take the time to sincerely talk to your spouse about how you feel and what you think is causing the rift in your bond. Is it a meddling friend? Anger issues? Unresolved issues from early on in your courtship?

If you've tried that and a few other things and your spouse is unresponsive and argumentative still, then you need to make the choice; Is this how I want to live the rest of my life?