Is this what "Bringing Sexy Back" means?

What's the meaning of "I do"?
Personally, I think that the role of the man has been totally destroyed.
I'm not bashing the "We are women, hear us roar" movement that our mothers and grandmothers founded decades ago, but what has that cost our male generation in the process?
You can see it on television commercials, and in movies.
(The romantic comedy genre- obviously.)
Why is it that the media portrays a successful female with a not only emotional moron but a senseless idiot perfectly happy just being a bum? Let me clarify before you get annoyed...
In the 1998 flick "Hush" with Jessica Lange and Gwyneth Paltrow, the husband is clueless of his mother's insanity and disregards his wife when she tells him she's uneasy.
In "High Fidelity", John Cusack is emotionally defunct and relationship challenged even when Laura spells it out for him.
In "Just Married" Ashton is a total jerk towards Brittany in Europe when things don't go his way.
I could go on, but you get my drift.
Or even the commercials where a female walks in on her man "freshing up" and asks him why he's putting on a dirty sock- or when he's changing his shirt he just turns it inside out and backwards?
How about the Ford commercial with the girl at the dry cleaners drive thru who pays for the cute-guy-in-the-Mustang-behind-her's shirts? Seriously. He drives a brand new Mustang- he can pay for his own shirts to be cleaned.
This is NOT sexy. Men are supposed to be bold, charming, and strong. Women are too, but what has happened to this culture's perspective of manly men?
What happened to our Cary Grants? To our successful manly man who sweeps a girl off her feet? Why aren't those the type of men the media portrays as "good"? These days, you get "Shop Girl" and the audience cringes at the idea of Steve Martin and Claire Danes. Even in "Lost in Translation" you don't want Scarlett Johansson with Bill Murray.
Where's our manly men?
The provider, the protector, the giver, the man who makes you feel like a woman down to your very core with just one glance? Even if he is older- he's more experienced.
They don't exist anymore. Our generations manly man is one who lacks manners, has grooming issues, and is selfish down to the very center of his being.
Maybe this is the reason that many twenty-something women want to have families instead of careers. This should not be looked down upon!
Women can have younger men on their arm and aren't looked down upon. Flip the table and all of a sudden you hear the whispers of "He's old enough to be her father!"
What has happened in the past two decades?!

It upsets me. It envokes such discontent in me.

Maybe it's because I'm with one of our generations manly men, yet long for the type of decades past? Don't get me wrong, I love my husband, but there isn't the commitment, trust, provider, protector in him. Yes, he's military. Yes, he fights for our country. That doesn't mean he isn't one of the most selfish people I've ever met; because he is.
Then again, how much of that is him, and how much is what he's been taught?
I've seen it in base housing the most. Sons growing up being tattle-tales. What happened to letting your little boy stand up for himself- even if he gets beat up or made fun of? Doesn't that teach him life lessons?

I've always thought it's easier to stand up and fight for your principles than it is to live each day by them. Maybe this is the case here?